To further drive the point home, since some people missed it:
THIS IS A POSITIVE POST, FOR WHICH I AM THANKFUL OF THE OUTCOME
Apparently, the hot topic
at girls night out this past Wednesday was about my family. Okay, maybe not just this past Wednesday, but certainly there have been discussions going on behind Noelle’s and my back for a little while; but, yet, never brought to our attention.
Let me preface what I am going to say (which I will reiterate at the end of this post) that Noelle and I are VERY, VERY grateful for the service which has been rendered to us in the past couple of months and which will be rendered to us in the next couple of months. The Church is true and the people in our little part of Zion are absolutely wonderful.
It seems that Rachel has not been doing fine at the different places she has stayed, despite me being told that she was. All I’ve heard was that she played nicely and got along well. This must not be the case. The Bishop came and visited us today and let us know that he was approached separately by several of the sisters in the ward about their genuine concern for Rachel’s welfare and development, and how she may not be getting the care she needs by house hopping during the week.
This was very frustrating to hear, not about the concern, but that the concern was not brought to our attention earlier and we were told all was well. This after a little fiasco last night at 10:00 PM with one party berating me stating, “How could I let Rachel go over to so-and-so’s when she is sick.” Then me calling so-and-so and verifying that they really couldn’t watch Rachel with their current situation. The thing is, we thought the situation was taken care of since we had called earlier in the day and told it was fine.
Let me be absolutely clear: We are not mad at either party. The situation was poor communication. I do wish we would have been told no the first time. We were ready to make other arrangements.
Let me also make something else clear that I learned over this experience: Service is not mandatory, please say No if you can’t. If there is a problem, speak up… especially to us.
Noelle and I really are humble people and do not hold grudges, do not get involved in pettiness, etc. Case-in-point, I don’t care who was talking to the Bishop, they did the right thing. We know that we aren’t perfect. We know that if there is a problem, and a friend approaches us, we are not going to hold that against them. We are not going to be petty and think a person is rotten or rude because they tell us “No, I can’t help you.” We understand it is a service and no one is obligated.
Reiteration time: We are very, very appreciative for all the help we have received and will receive. We are not mad at anyone… in fact, we are glad the topic has been brought to our attention now (and not after we lost all of our friends).
Please discuss with us if you have any issues with us. We can try and work it out. I love you all and hope to be able to return the service we have received to those in need in the future.